You ever run across somebody that feels the need to ALWAYS say something harsh about the next person? Whether they say it jokingly or seriously, you have to understand something about those types of people. People who say overly harsh things are people that have been so hurt somewhere down the line in their lives that they subconsciously wanna hurt every person they come across. They may not even realize that this is the reason they do it. So instead of looking at that person with disgust, you should feel for that person....for it is a hurt little boy/girl trapped inside of them that feels so much pain. Love solves all.